There is a dizzying array of publishers trying to attract the endless numbers of authors out there wanting to have their book published.  And each one has a variety of options within their publishing packages.  While I did extensive worrying, I didn’t do a lot of searching.  While I sent my book file out to several friends to gather their feedback about the book itself, I became more or less like a deer caught in the headlights.  Was it worth going through all the trouble and expense of publishing it at all?  How much marketing and social networking was I willing to do?  Should I search for endorsements before getting it published?  Should I try to find an agent?  Should I  write a super pitch query letter and give a stab at finding an old-fashioned publisher who actually wants to publish my book?

Revising and rewriting according to the comments of my friends took up more time that I didn’t have to decide how, where, to publish the book.  I had heard about, had a friend who had used it, and with the synchronicity that we like to believe signals “this is the sign I’ve been waiting for,” I was able to attend a writer’s club that had the CEO of BookBaby as the main luncheon speaker.  He was young, energetic, and obviously loved the digital world he was so comfortable in.  I liked the fact that he gave us his personal e-mail address.  I also liked the fact that they promised truly live people to speak to during publishing.  Being able to speak to live people is not something that we can take for granted anymore.  And, like a good marketer in today’s digital world, once I called BookBaby, they sent me daily information on how to market, how to blog, etc. that gave me more to read and worry about than I wanted to know.

Money was a deciding factor for me.  I knew a few things for sure.  One was that the book wouldn’t make me rich.  Another was that I wanted decent quality.  And I didn’t want to have to keep buying books to sell.  Of course, going to book fairs without being able to offer a paperback for sale seems fruitless.  And I would have to give up the joy of autographing my books.  I made a few phone calls to BookBaby just to see what their customer service was like.   While the voices were encouraging and cheerful, I was very disappointed to learn that technical computer support was not among the advice they offered.

After choosing a cover design package and the publishing package that offered more oversight, I was getting ready to send my money.  But then the last friend I asked to read the book said, “Of course you need to put pictures of your son at different ages.  Readers will expect that.”  I tried to convince myself that my son’s picture on the cover was enough,  but I knew she was right.  I went on a hunt for some good pictures to add, knowing that this would indeed complicate the computer skill required to add the pictures to the file.

I wanted to send it all in in time to take advantage of one of their special coupons if I signed up before April Fools’ Day.  With great good fortune, a friend of mine who can speak computer put it all together correctly and sent it in.  Turns out I did not qualify for that coupon because I had ordered a cheaper cover design package.  A few days after I paid my money, BookBaby offered a special discount for new people. Another sign?

Now, all I have to do is wait for it to come back to me to proofread.  And then the work really begins.

To Be Continued

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October 31, 2012

Thanks to LornaCollins for inviting me to the Blog Hop where authors answer questions about their new books.

What is the working title of your book?

Out of Step:  A Diary To My Dead Son

When I told the title to some friends, there was a visceral reaction to the word “dead” in the title.  Death is a difficult topic, but this is precisely what I wanted to make clear in my title.

Where did the idea for the book come from?

My son died of AIDS in 2003.  In 2011, I felt he was just too dead.  I needed some way to make him come more alive to me.  But how?  The idea of starting a diary to him began to form.  I decided to see where the diary might lead.  I didn’t really know whether or not I would continue it and I didn’t have a plan of what I would say in it.  Our relationship held so much pain, feelings of rejection on both sides, and many unsaid conversations.  Having spent so many years apart, I wanted to get to know him better as an adult, and to help him know me as an adult.

What genre does your book fall under?

Establishing communication with someone who is dead puts the book in an unusual gap between genres.  It’s non-fiction, based on the actual facts of our complicated relationship over the years he was alive.  But it’s also fictional in how our communication evolved during the book.  I made it clear that I had no belief in parapsychological methods of communicating with the dead, but I used imaginary phone calls with my dead son to introduce conversations into the book.

Which actors would you choose to play your characters in a movie rendition?

I’d like Meryl Streep to play me, the mother.  She’s an amazingly versatile actress who could make my story as believable as it, indeed, was.  Frankly, I’d be interested in how she would portray my part.  For my son, I would select Shemar Moore, a tv star known mostly for his role as Morgan in “Criminal Minds.”  Although Shemar Moore is a little darker shade of brown, he and my son look alike.  I can imagine he also looked like my son while growing up.  There’s also a remote quality to the character of Morgan.  Since I never felt I knew my son as an adult, the hidden part of Morgan reminds me of my son.

What is a one-sentence synopsis of your book?

Can a mother mend a damaged relationship with her son seven years after he died?

Will your book be self-published or represented by an agency?

I’m thinking of publishing this as an e-book, possibly through

How long did it take you to write the first draft of your manuscript?

Although I was concerned I wouldn’t know when to end a book that could go on and on, I instinctively knew the ending when I wrote it — one year after I began.

What other books would you compare to this story within your genre?

I was interested in reading Joan Didion’s book, “Blue Nights,” that came out the year I was writing my book.  Although her book is not actually TO her dead daughter, we shared the same experience of losing an only adopted child to a very cruel terminal illness in their middle-age prime.  As did I, the mother Joan Didion was trying to come to terms with not only the untimely death of her daughter, but also trying to scrutinize the relationship between them.  Joan Didion is famous for saying a lot in very few well chosen words that penetrate deeply.  Unlike my book, however, I found “Blue Nights” very depressing.

Who or what inspired you to write this book?

Anger, guilt, and sadness had kept me from being able to write this book for many years following my son’s death.  But I knew I didn’t want our relationship to end there.  There were many things I wanted to tell him even though I knew I couldn’t.  But the movie, “Atonement,” had introduced the idea in my head that an author could continue a true story and make up the ending.

What else about your book might pique the reader’s interest?

I started the book without a planned plot.  It is a diary because that is precisely how I wrote it. Would it lead anywhere?  Where ?  How?  It was all rather unknown and mystical.  As the entries continued, I saw the evolution of what I was feeling and saying.  The diary itself dictated when to end it.  The diary accomplished my goal of making my dead son come alive to me.  After the communication through the book ended, I was reluctant to let it go.  I felt the loss of writing to him, so I have continued by writing e-mails to him.  That is the personal legacy of my book.

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